I agree with your overarching idea of giving people time to learn and question...and I do think that a small minority of very loud activist have not yet learned to give people learning how to help the same kindness they wish for themselves. But I definetely do not agree with your positions on non-binary people beinf self-indulgent or anything else. I do not struggle with my gender, I was born and feel a female. That doesn't mean that people who don't feel like either gender are just "not making a choice". It surely doesn't make life easier for them to come out as such. There must be a journey of confusion, shame, and hurt behind that we should respect. Even when we don't understand it.